Confidence, curly hair, and learning to work with what you've got
But so much of that self-love conversation is focused on bodies - fitness, digestion, acne, injuries, whatever it is... not much attention is paid to hair.
I was so sad to see the little girls in the "Love Your Curls" video that Dove Hair released last year - I didn't realize children could feel so negatively about themselves for any reason, much less hair.
I've had messy, wavy hair most of my life and it took me a long time to figure out what to do with it to make myself look and feel my best! Like, years, and sometimes I forgot for a while and just had crazy hair I didn't feel good about until I got a haircut.
Figuring out what to do with my hair...
This is what my hair looks like when I do the following steps: 1) Wash hair. 2) Go to bed. 3) Wake up.
Curly, but not in an organized way. As soon as I brush it, the curls turn into waves that stick out what feels like several inches on either side of my head!
I figured out in high school once when I got a haircut and the stylist scrunched my hair with mousse that if I have enough layers, I can get a more defined curl with just a little mousse. Here's that look.
But, that only lasts the first day (if that), and as soon as I brush it, it goes crazy/poufy wavy again.
When I was much older, like 22, I learned how to use a curling iron (!!! It took me that long!!) and curl my own hair. (My mom has very straight hair and never used a curling iron, so I was totally clueless about curling, straightening, doing much of anything to my hair.) Now I have a method down to about 10 minutes, using a curling iron or wand, and the curls last for 2-3 days looking pretty good most of the time! I don't need to use product; my wavy, sort of coarse/body-ful hair likes to stay curled and it stays put until I wash it.
The finished look.
I feel good with my hair like this! It's me. I sometimes wish I had Jennifer Aniston hair, but I don't, so at least I've figured out how to make it look the best it can. (A good haircut helps a lot with that, too.)
I know that self-esteem, self love, and confidence are huge issues in our culture and SO many women and girls struggle with love and acceptance of themselves. (Case in point: Amy Schumer's Compliments sketch. Watch it if you haven't already!!) I know (as the Dove Hair video says) one thing I can do to maybe make things better for others is to show off my own confidence and self-acceptance. Not put myself down when people compliment me on my hair, for example. If I have a daughter with curly hair, tell her it's beautiful and show her my favorite ways to wear mine.
Anyway - as part of this issue and their campaign encouraging girls to feel good about their hair, Dove Hair recently released the Dove Love Your Curls emoji keyboard with curly-haired characters. Now curly-haired girls can be part of the cute button movement on social media, emails, and messaging.
The emoji keyboard has 27 curly hair designs with selectable skin tone and hair color that results in 131 variations, including seven animated GIFs. (Super interesting article about it in Ad Age, btw.)
If you or someone you care about have curly hair... Download the Dove Love Your Curls Emojis in the App Store and Google Play Store to show you #LoveYourCurls!”